Organizational confession

I admit it: I love organization.  But I do not love organizing.

I’m a reader.  I taught myself to read when I was like, 4 or 5 or some young age like that.  Even now, if I’m not reading some sort of entertaining novel I feel like I’m incomplete.  I have to read while eating (even if it’s just the nutrition facts on the box of cereal).  So if you combine that with my love of “organization” you will easily see that I fall into the “reads everything about organization, tries it for 5 minutes, then reads something new!” category.

This month over at the Fly Lady the habit of the month is her base habit: shining your sink every night.  Now, I’ve attempted to follow the fly lady system for about the past six months.  She says it is all about simplicity, but frankly I can’t handle it.  31 days worth of babysteps?  Nope, I need to focus on small things.  15 minutes of decluttering?  Nice idea, babe, but how am I supposed to do that and spend time reading things on the internet?  However, this sink shining thing (which I’ve been trying to go at full force) has seen some success.  Most (not all) nights there are no dishes in the sink and it’s realitivly clean in the kitchen.  It IS a good feeling to wake up and not have to worry about doing dishes.

But frankly, her system is too much for me and it just doesn’t work. My schedule varies every week so I can’t always have a “weekly home blessing hour” on Mondays, have errand day be Thursdays and clean out my car on Fridays (heck, I’d be happy if that happened once a month, let alone once a week!).  Her system also relies heavily on her email system, with daily emails of her “flight plan” and testimonials that sound suspiciously cheesy and form written.  There’s no room to have both the support system with your own variation of the cleaning system.

So, of course, I’m looking for a new system.  But this time, I’m trying to take what is good and what works from the Fly system and combine it with whatever other new system I find.  Because being a clean, organized homemaker isn’t going to happen with anyone else’s system.  I need to find MY system.  And guess what, even if I come up with a great thing that works for me, it probably won’t work for you. I’m sorry, dear dear reader.  But this is not the point of my blog.  I’m not here to give you a magic formula.  Rather, I’m here to just tell you what I’m doing so maybe you can find one little thing that works for you.  And I’m here to support you as you journey in your vocation.  Cause your vocation is different than mine.   There is no “One Size Fits All” vocation.

I’m off to read some more tips and tricks.  There’s a pile of dishes too, waiting to be done after a night where I was at a wedding having a fantastic time.  And that’s what it’s all about.  When you die, NO ONE will care if you washed every dish as soon as you were done with it or had a shiny sink every morning.  No, they will not.  No one. I repeat, not one person will care about that.   But they’ll look back at that random wedding where you wore a hot dress, had make up on and were smiling, laughing, taking pictures and just having a great time dancing like you were 16 and in love (even though you’re 23/31/45/whatever and in love).

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Motherhood, daughters and the new year.

“…so that they [older women] may encourage [or train] the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored [blasphemed or discredited].” Titus 2:3-5

I’m doing some “blog hopping” today, trying to find some good ones to add to my google reader.  Particularly I was looking for good, Christ-centered Moms who I could connect with (bonus if they have super cute kids or blog designs).  I’m not opposed to non-Catholic blogs, simply because there is wisdom and wit to be found in all sorts of places.

I came across a beautiful blog (that I’m still exploring) with this intriguing post: If You’re Not Raising Your Daughters To Be Homemakers, You Are Potentially Hurting Them.

The author’s main point is that daughters are often told things like “You can do whatever you want” but what ends up happening to most of them is that they grow up to be wives and moms (often stay at home moms, at least for a season of their life)!   I think I’m lucky enough that in some respects, I was raised to be a homemaker or at the least, I was raised with a good amount of “mom training”.  I think my training did suffer a bit though, on the actual “homemaking” front.  Yes, I know how to do all the household chores.  I can wash dishes, do loads of laundry, and tidy up the living room.

But homemaking is considerably more than just chores.  During 2009 I spent a good chunk of time on sites like flylady.net trying to figure out just what homemaking really is. I don’t think I know yet.  In fact, I think it changes in all sorts of myriad ways as families change and grow and add (or subtract) members.  One of my biggest goals for 2010 is to really take myself and grow into a homemaker.  That’s always been my clear vocation, but I was never “trained” in that way.

And, of course, part of this is about how I’m going to train up my daughter(s).  Grace may grow up to be a nun, a president, a single woman, or like most women, a wife and mother.  Since the odds are that she’ll need to know how to do that job, I will have to make sure to fulfill my vocation by teaching her up in those ways.  And this doesn’t mean having a home economics class in high school for one semester.  This is about constantly working with Grace, being an example to her, and slowly teaching her over the course of her whole life the skills that she needs.

So yes, I’ll bake cookies with her, and hopefully give her siblings so that she can get hands on child care experience and make her wash dishes and do the laundry.  But most of all I hope to teach her to do these things efficiently and with a joyful heart, always praising God.

My personal project

My biggest upcoming project is my DHCT directing debut of It’s a Wonderful Life.  It’s the stage version of the movie and is very faithful to the screenplay.  This project is exciting and daunting all at the same time.

What is really interesting to me, in my self-reflections, is that in order to really work on IaWL (as I call it) I feel as though I need to get my life into order.  How am I going to be able to properly direct and showcase the meaning of this play if I have a chaotic life?

So while I would love to spend my time working on the show I really feel the need to get my home into order first.  One project follows the other.  If I finish the first, the second (and future!) will be easier, less anxious, more peaceful.  So while they may not seem related, it’s vital that my pantry is inventoried and my clutter gone so that I can focus on blocking and set designing.

As we get closer to the show (auditions are at the end of September and we go up in December) I’ll update you on how everything goes.

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